3 reasons why you need a daily check-in with your partner
Having a baby is tough on your relationship. Before your little one arrived, you could shower, eat, and sleep whenever you felt like it. Now, it takes multiple attempts to drink a cup of coffee. To ensure your relationship thrives postpartum, you’ll need to work on how you communicate with your partner. One way to do that is a daily check-in.
what is a partner check-in?
A partner check-in is a (kinda) scheduled daily and weekly time to chat with your partner. It should be with just the two of you, to go over your day, share what worked and didn’t work, discuss if something bothered you, and show gratitude and/or frustration.
Once a week, you can also discuss more important topics, such your schedules for the upcoming week or finances.
why should you start a daily check-in?
It’ll strengthen your relationship as a couple, not parents. When your baby is sleeping, it can be so easy to fall into the pattern of making your baby the focus: talking about them, looking at pictures of them, staring at the baby monitor. But having a daily check-in, where you ask about each other, not the baby, will remind you to care for each other, too.
It'll improve your communication skills. If you’re not used to talking about your feelings every day, setting aside 10 - 15 minutes to work on this will help. You’ll slowly become more comfortable asking about your partner’s day or voicing what you need from them. After a few weeks, it’ll become natural.
It’ll prevent anger and resentment from building up. We all have had those moments where we let our frustration and resentment boil over; it comes out in an angry rush. Speaking daily about what we need from our partner and listening to what they need is a great way to avoid this blow ups.
how do you get started?
Pick a time that is relaxing for you both, maybe during a nap or before you go to bed.
To start, make a list of questions (or use the guide in this course) to ask and a list of topics to cover once a week.
Grab a nice cup of coffee or tea (or a glass of wine,) and a journal, and start chatting.
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Hi! I'm Gigi; I'm a postpartum doula, mother to three toddlers, including twins, and a wife to my high school sweetheart. I’m a #swiftie who loves cheesy novels.
As a former teacher, I bring realistic, evidence-based, and actionable advice (and LOTS of handouts.) I help families get all the tools they need to prepare, so once baby arrives, they can focus on resting and bonding instead of researching or stressing. I’m here to streamline the newborn learning curve and help birth parents, partners, and other family members. There isn’t ONE way to have and raise a little human. I’m here to guide parents to find THEIR way so that they can thrive in the fourth trimester and beyond.
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